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If you’re like many parents, at least at some point in your parenting, you may have found yourself crossing your fingers thinking, “How long can I put off having THE SEX TALK?” For some, the mere thought sends immediate sweat beads to glisten your foreheads. You may think, “But I want to keep them innocent! And young!” If this is you, welcome to the crowd. You’re in good company. However, that doesn’t negate us from the reality check we all need to come to grips with. If you need to, sit down, find a paper bag to breath into, I’ll give you a minute…because reality is, the world is racing to beat you to it. That’s right, the world would LOVE to teach, train, & equip your kids in ALL things sex. Rather than, “How long can I put off having THE TALK?”, perhaps the question we should be asking ourselves is, “How much do I trust society to teach, train, & equip my child’s sexuality?” In a world that not only capitalizes on, but also glamourizes sex scandals, pornography, & a plethora of other sexually promiscuous behaviors, can I tell you right now that, let unchecked, our children are NOT in good hands?

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Kids Safety (Week 1 of 6)

A single mom, doing all she can to provide for, educate, & protect her little ones, has a six-year-old son with his own cell phone. Not her decision. Not her preference. But so goes life at this stage for many split family households. At least the parents agree to put strict parental controls on the phone. No browsing the internet. No downloading unauthorized apps. Time restrictions. No giving out phone numbers to anyone mom or dad doesn’t approve. At this point, one may feel they deserve a good pat on the back. Perhaps a, “Great job protecting your kid!” Or possibly even a, “Way to go being a responsible parent! You earn five gold stars!” Heh. Wouldn’t that be nice? The sad truth is anyone who’s mildly tech savvy will tell you that none of those are a guarantee of safety. 

Any feelings of safety came crashing down the night this mom stumbled upon this text message on her sweet, innocent six-year-old’s phone:

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Do You Know of A Church Providing Help for Sexual Addiction? If So, We Want to Hear About It!

In the age of Me Too, political sexual scandals, and society questioning what's appropriate and what isn't, what is the Church at large doing to help people deal with their own struggles, questions, and heartbreak around sexuality? A social door has opened; will the Church walk through it into the reality all around us and in it's pews? Or will most churches once again fail to be "real?"

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What if Shame was a Bridge, not a Barrier?
~Jackie Hill Perry (quote from the film The Heart of Man)

by Marsha Means, M.A., October 2017

While chatting with my drop dead gorgeous niece last weekend—who happens to be a medical doctor and single—I half-jokingly said, "Well, when you think you've found Mister Right, ask him to take a lie detector test!" My mistake. She quickly abandoned the conversation, and as she stood to leave she said, "I would hope I have better discernment than to choose someone who would need that."

Inwardly I groaned: Didn't we all?

How could so many—in fact, millions of us—miss the clues that could have shown us betrayal was ahead in our most intimate relationship? Did God not hear our prayers for wisdom? Was it our failure—or His?

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Considering Options: Choosing to Stay with a Sex Addict

by Coach Jodi; edited by Marsha Means, M.A., August 2017

Ten years ago when I discovered I was the partner of a sex addict, I felt as if I had fallen into a deep, dark hole: a pit really, and initially, I had no idea where I was, or how to find my way out. Back then—and even now—I identified with this poem about addiction and recovery. For me, it accurately portrays a partner’s journey:

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